Growing up, I never used the term “Purpose”. We were brought up with the mentality of going to school and then going out and finding a trade. I grew up in a working-class family. My father was a labourer and my mother would stay home during the day to take care of us kids. At night, my father would come home, and it would be my mothers turn to go and work. This was our life and what we were taught – If you want money, you have to work your ass off to get it. I love my parents and everything they did for us because they did the best they could and always put their kids first. And with their “old school” mindset… I guess that’s how a lot of working-class Greeks were back then – Hard work leads to success.
As I got older, I never understood the talk about “purpose”. Whenever I was asked about my purpose or my “WHY”… I would always have a blank face and say “I want to be rich… I want a lot of money so I can have a lot of fun!” My PURPOSE and my WHY was the Fun stuff like CARS, TRAVEL and hanging out with friends.
As the years went by, the focus was just that. And I found it made me chase a lot of money… it made me work hard. Long hours, vigorous schedules and basically chasing the mentality of trading hours for cash! The more cash I wanted… The more hours I needed to do.
So my purpose of life was to enjoy it! – Sounds great right?
After working job after job and moving up the income ladder, I found that the work got harder and the hours got longer – and that meant that my “WHY” wasn’t fulfilled. I thought to myself that the math just didn’t add up.
More Hours = More Money (YAY!)
But wait… More hours = Less FREE TIME… = Less fun (? … That’s not what I signed up for)
As the years went on though, I got married. I had children – I have 2 young ones… A 5-year-old boy (who is excited about his first ever day of school in a few days), and a little 2-year-old girl.
The long hours got in the way of watching my kids grow up.
I was working 6 (sometimes 7) days a week. I didn’t get to watch my son go through key milestones. I would need to plan a weekend off, weeks in advance. And even then, I would be constantly called on my mobile while I was away from work. And then my girl came along and I told myself, I would make more time.
Guess what! I had less time. But I told myself that I am a Dad… I had responsibilities… What can I do? It’s too late to change! I thought of my upbringing and that’s exactly how it was for my father too!! My reason was, I wasn’t born rich, so this is what needs to be done.
The truth is, it doesn’t need to be like that! You don’t need to be born rich… and you definitely don’t need to trade hours for money!
Let go of the saying “time is money”
Time is time! Money is Money!
I left my job and started my own online business and I learnt A LOT! I get to spend time with my kids every day… I get to see my wife and cook and do all the things that I once thought would be a dream. And more importantly, as I went through the modules of my educations, was my “Purpose”. I found my “Why”. I realised it isn’t about the money and I don’t think it ever was about the money at all. It is about the quality of life.
I wanted to Travel and I wanted the nice house and I wanted to have the nice car…. But I don’t need to sacrifice anymore. I don’t need to work my ass off to make someone else rich and give them a quality of life – my hard work gave someone else all the things that were important to me.
Now I work my ass off, for me and my family!
What I do is not easy. I do work hard and there is a lot to learn. Learn about business, marketing, and probably more importantly… learning about mindset. Really finding out what is important to me. Learning how to fail and how to turn that failure into a lesson.
My purpose. My Why.
I have been asked, “What would you do if you were 10 times bolder”.
My answer was, give up my job and do something that gave me time freedom. Do something that gave meaning in my life. Do something that helped others.
I realised that I don’t have to be a doctor to help people. I didn’t have to be Tony Robbins to be able to change lives. I can share my experiences and I can share my knowledge and I can help people all over the world take a chance if they are not happy with what they are doing.
And just because I decided to give it up and focus on building my business, it doesn’t mean that you have to do the same. You can go to your job and spend 1-2 hours an evening, working on your business.
As long as your “WHY” is powerful enough and pulls your heartstrings, then you can do it. Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to do things. The important thing is TO DO! Start with a step… you will see how amazing it feels to make a decision and just do it.
Be ready for life-changing lessons. Be ready to be inspired. Be ready to inspire others. Nothing in the world will feel better for you, than doing something that you love! No money in the world can buy the feeling of waking up in the morning, WANTING to GET OUT OF BED and starting your day. I know people with a lot of money… And the more money they have, the more time they spend in bed. And you know what? That’s totally fine if that is what makes you happy. But for me, I love waking up and getting my kids ready. Organising their breakfasts and sitting down to write stuff like this and replying to your messages. The more I do it, the more I want to do. I honestly never thought that I would find something that I love doing. Working and never feeling like work.
This is my purpose.